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HomeMy WebLinkAbout09-01-2015 Item 1 Kimball(2)Learn to disagree without being disagreeable. Use courtesy and respect in words and deeds. Talk to each other instead of at each other. Be Respecthd Listening is as important as expressing your own views. Listening is not the same as agreeing. Recognize opposing positions. f&- Listen with an open mind Reach across the aisle. Seek shared values. Challenge stereotypes. Ask pertinent questions. Identify and focus on problems. Articulate, argue and defend issues. Be open to compromise. 9S Find Common Ground viewpoints on Civil Discourse "Come together, in open dialogue, to discuss the great issues of our day, learn from each other, and work to move our society forward." UC President Janet Napolitano "Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with conflict by peaceful means. " Ronald Reagan "Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress." Mahatma Gandhi "Differences of opinion lead to inquiry, and inquiry to truth." Thomas Jefferson We invite you to join the league of Women Voters to promote Civil Discourse as an essential way of life for a thriving democracy. LWVSLO.org Meeting Date: 09/01/2015 Item No.: 1 Distributed by Sharon Kimball, LOVW N011'1I8I,1111relyli if civil Discourse 7 in the 4 Public Arena Effective LU Ideas 6 solutions � "Good governance is a clash of ideas and values in the political arena. We need to listen to our opponent's arguments and look for areas of common interest ...if we are to govern this country effectively." Brint Milward, National Institute for Civil Discourse -AND Su IT w6iNS- . He two So NATURAL_ Ao He DbesN'r "...And so it begins..." what is civil Discourse? It is courteous, constructive communication characterized by mutual respect, fairness, and attentive listening. Why Does Civility Matter? Civil Discourse promotes informed discussion of public issues essential for government bodies and citizens to make good decisions. Improving civility is Easy Shine a bright light on civility! Call on others to do the same. Find points of disagreement and their solutions amicably. Be kind to one another, even if you disagree on stuff. 10 simple Rules fvr Discourse A Presiding chairperson sets the tone of a meeting... 1) Leads by example and encourages others to do the same. Shows respect to all in actions, body language, and speech. 2) Encourages open spirited debates on all facts by contending parties. 3) Provides adequate time for public comment. 4) Actively listens. Thanks speakers and, where appropriate, acknowledges public input. 5) Speaks truthfully without distortion. 6) Never comments on the motivation of a speaker. 7) Limits discussion to merits of issues. Explains the rationale and evidence to support opinions and conclusions. 8) Promotes rules publically. Gives a brief reminder before meetings. 9) Enforces the rules. Allows no disruptions of a meeting. Allows no slanderous, profane or negative personal remarks. 10) Regularly reviews /updates rules (city /county codes, codes of ethics, Robert's Rules, Brown Act, pledges). ...and ensures fair treatment with Rules of order and Decorum "Civil Discourse manes a dMWWcefor ' the good so we can have an environment that calls people to government service. We owe it to our democracy and to every IM young person who will inherit it." J. Mullen Jr., Allegheny College 1� "Good God winifred! flow long has civility cost nothing ? civility: Not Just Politeness It means be tolerant. Listen, don't interrupt. Refrain from sarcasm. Be respectful. Speak in modulated tones. Stick to the issue. Recognize there are two sides. Avoid labels. Tlp > To prevent shutting down conversation, choose civil words. civility increases your chance of being heard. Civility vs. Free speech You may have the right to say what you want but there is no need to say it in an inflammatory or insulting manner. "We can only exercise our right to free speech insofar as we feel safe and respected in doing so, and this in turn requires that people treat each other with civility." J. Mullen Jr., The importance of Civility in Public Discourse • T]p> Attack the message, not the messenger INTIMIDATE ARGUE REFUTE DEBATE Violence, "I'm right! Using Construc- Using reason threats, You're half- truths tively point and evidence personal wrong!" or lies out errors of attacks, opposition name calling of The spectrum to Comm unicate Sad, Better, and Best Ways